What you'll learn in this article:
- What the watering can analogy is.
- How talking to many girls early on can reap benefits later on in the night.
- How you can use other guys to warm up a girl for you.
With the ever popular rise of daygame in the pickup community, and the over information there is out there, it’s no surprise that many guys end up not really know what to do. They fall into certain mistakes that stop them getting the results they should be getting.
There are 7 major daygame mistakes that I’ve noticed and I’ll go into each of these:
#1: Plant your seeds
From now on, when you go out you are a farmer.
Sounds weird doesn’t it? What kind of pickup bullsh*tsu is this?
Did Sami really just tell me to think of myself as a farmer when I go out and talk to girls?
Yes. Hear me out.
The average guy goes to a bar and talks to an average of 2-3 girls in his entire night, and that’s a confident guy, someone less confident may not even speak to any girls at all!
If you want to do this correctly, I suggest you go out and speak to as many girls as you can early on in the night. You are basically just socializing, it’s your house party and you’re just going around to meet the people who showed up.
This is what I call planting your seeds.
You walk around the venue and have short (5-10 minute) conversations with the girls present and then move along to the next group.
If you want to get good at attracting women, you’ll need to be comfortable talking to them all night. Putting all your eggs in one basket isn’t going to be good for your chances, not only that but it makes you more needy!
#2: Water your plants
I’m not sure why this happens, but for some reason, guys only approach girls once. They think it’s a now or never situation where they will approach a girl and if it doesn’t happen then and there then it will never happen. Not only can you reopen, you should reopen.
Once you’ve planted all your seeds, you need to come back and water them, otherwise how else will they grow into plants? Now the interesting part about all this is that you don’t even need to water them all.
There are other ‘farmers’ (guys) at the venue who will walk around and water your plants for you. The water in this case is social conversation and emotions.
Don’t be afraid to reopen.
A girl who you spoke to 2 hours ago will be much more open to you now than she was before just because she’s warmed up now.
You will miss out on countless opportunities by not reopening.
#3: Harvesting your crops
It’s a weird analogy isn’t it? Farmers, seeds, plants, watering and harvesting?
But it makes sense.
You can’t harvest a plant before it’s grown to a ripe stage. If you harvest a plant too young, you won’t get any fruit out of it. Closer towards the end of the night is the best time to harvest.
I’ll let you in on a little secret. I used to live 2 blocks away from the meat packing district in New York. This place is the clubbing mecca of manhattan.
Literally clubs and bars as far as the eye can see. I was lazy, I didn’t want to go to the clubs at 9 P.M until 4 A.M. I just didn’t have that kind of energy.
So instead, I would nap until around 1 A.M, change clothes, go out to the clubs around 2 or 3 A.M and ‘harvest’. It was the easiest thing in the world. Other people had planted seeds, they watered them, but they didn’t have the know how or the balls to pull the trigger. So experienced guys like me would swoop in and take their pull.
Watering isn’t enough, you need to become a leader, a decision maker, a closer (harvester). From now on, at the end of the night your sets should have one purpose.
“Is she ready to be pulled now or not?”
Why waste any time?
The early bird gets the worm, well in this case it’s the smart farmer goes home with the hot girl.
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Early on in the night your interactions should be short but plentiful, think quantity over quality. You should at several stages in your night go around and reopen the sets that you had spoken to earlier in the night. Towards the end of the night work towards the pull where you are filtering out the ones that aren’t ready from the ones that are and focusing your energy in a smart and efficient way.
Have fun out there,
– Sami Moa