What you'll learn in this article:
- What the benefits of masturbation are
- Why we often don't think of masturbation as an addiction
- Why we sometimes feel regret after masturbating
- What you can and should do instead of fapping all day long
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‘No fap’ is a big movement that has taken over that basically tells you to fight the urge to masturbate as it can have many benefits on your life overall, the majority of the followers tell you to refrain from masturbating to porn, however, a smaller group tell you to avoid masturbation completely and there’s even a sect that goes as far to say that when you have sex you shouldn’t ejaculate but for this article we won’t go into that.
Before we dive into this controversial topic I'm gonna show you some stats to start this off:
Pretty interesting ha?! 40% of women like masturbating more than sex? Wow, well that number's gotta change.
So let's get started.
#1 The benefits of masturbation in general
Let’s look at the pros before we move on to the cons.
#2 So what’s the problem then?
Something that only really effects us mentally, and it’s literally the task of someone rubbing his dick too much, we think it’s a big joke we think it’s funny, but it can get pretty serious. We should do everything in moderation. I know some guys who are dating some of the hottest girls and their sex life is in the gutter because they cant quit jacking it to internet porn. The problem occurs when you do it so often that it doesn’t feel good anymore, or when sex becomes boring and you prefer to masturbate instead.
Have you ever felt guilt or regret right after masturbating?
Did you ever feel like shit or even depressed right after you blow your load into a tissue?
Well that’s because masturbating is meant to be a quick/ temporary escape from relief or stress. When you masturbate, the brain is triggered into releasing a flood of chemicals like dopamine, endorphins and serotonin. These natural drugs give you immediate satisfaction but don’t really give you a longer lasting feeling. It’s basically instant gratification at it’s finest.
#3 Everything comes with a price
However, the more you do it the more your body is forced to release these chemicals and just like when you borrow money from a bank, there’s an interest rate. So for the first time when you do it if you borrow 100 bucks, you feel great you used it up however immediately after you have to repay it with an interest rate. The next time you do it, since you’ve just borrowed 100 bucks you aren’t allowed to borrow that much, you’re only trusted with say 60 bucks, and so you do it, and the second time around it doesn’t feel as good. The high is much shorter, and just like a bad gambler, you can’t accept not winning big.
You really want that amazing feeling again.
So you go down a downward spiral, and usually you start watching more and more fucked up porn in order to get yourself off because what used to work now no longer does the job. So at first you might start off with watching a girl finger bang herself, slowly as the novelty of that wears off you end up going down the path of 10 big black dudes a horse a midget and a bowl of fruit fucking 3 filipino chicks to get yourself off.
#4 Why fapping can become an addiction
Fapping to porn becomes an addiction when you are unable to get the same satisfaction you were getting before, your brain becomes bored with the boring stuff and starts yearning for really intense and graphic stuff just to get you to climax. For me, I don’t think either extreme is going to benefit you, everything in moderation. If you completely give up masturbation you’re going to create a build up that can potentially be dangerous if not dealt with, you may feel good after a month but in your path in pick up it isn’t about not touching your dick, its about having someone else touch it for you, so now is the best time to develop those skills.
The problem lies when people jump on board no fap and then also stop socializing or dating women in a quest to find themselves.
Porn would probably be the main thing to avoid. That’s where it can get unhealthy because the more you watch it the more disconnected you become with reality. You start going down the downward spiral we talked about earlier where nothing seems to work for you and eventually you’re sat on your computer with 8 tabs open hoping to find the ‘perfect’ moment to shoot your shit.
#5 If you are addicted, what should you do?
Keeping yourself active and occupied is important, this is probably the best opportunity for you to practice your game, going out to bars, clubs and shopping malls talking to girls and working on getting dates lined up during your week is going to feel a lot better than the inside of your palm.
The more down time, the more time you have watching cat videos on your laptop while you sit at home, the more likely you are to go incognito mode, and start fapping away like there’s no tomorrow.
To summarize
- There are certainly benefits to masturbation so don't avoid it, you should just let someone else do it.
- We tend to think that 'mild' drugs are not real addictions but they are as real as meth.
- Everything comes with a price. If you masturbate too much, it is very likely that you will, over time, increase to an unhealthy amount of fapping.
- Instead of fapping at home go out, socialize, and find a girl that you can have fun with.
Bottom line. If you want to stop going down that downward spiral of fapping, and you think right now that you need some help, check out how I can help you to solve that problem forever!
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