What you'll learn in this article:
- 6 Tips how to keep conversations with girls going no matter the situation.
- The secrets that most men don't know what make women interested in you.
- Why you can be the hero of your own story - with humor
- Why it's OK to have little moments of silence.
That moment on a date when you think “Uhh.. shit! What to say next?”
Have you ever had the issue where you’re talking to a girl and things are going great!
Then, you just have no idea how to move the conversation. It hits a dead end and most of the times either you eject or try as useless as possible to drag the conversation on by bringing up a boring topic.
You’re definitely not the first person and you’re not the last person to experience this.
Its so easy to run out of things to say when speaking to a hot girl because you start questioning your conversation skills, and you start worrying that you might be boring her. Usually as soon as you get nervous and say
“Shit what do I say next??”
That’s when you the conversation ends up being doomed. Your brain is worried, so you’re not calm about the conversation and it starts freaking out and thousands of ideas flash before your eyes but nothing is good enough. Preparing material won’t help because you’ll usually forget it. So what should you do so you won’t run out of things to say?
In this video I discuss several points that have helped me keep conversations going in any situation.
Let’s have a look:
#1: Love your own stories
The trick to having good conversational skills is to be ready to tell your stories whether the girl is standing there or not. What do I mean by this? You need to develop the art of storytelling where you are so excited by your own story, and its so funny or amazing that you want to tell it just for the sake of telling it!
Whether it’s to an old man, a 21 year old stunning girl, or even a brick wall, your story is still so bad ass that you can elicit emotions from anyone. You want to get to the point that if you tell the story and the girl walks away, you won’t even notice because you’re so invested and so hyped up about your story!
#2: Girls respond to emotion, not context
If you give me an amazing story, but I’m not invested in it, I will deliver it in a boring way and lose your interest.. But, if you give me the worlds most boring story, and Im super invested in the idea behind it, I will make anyone interested.
Why is that? Because people read emotions before they read context. If you like the story, she’ll like the story. Try it out, try telling your friend an exciting story in a boring way, and vice versa and see which gets a better reaction.
#3: Find out about her
Guys make the mistake of asking open ended questions, keeping the conversation blasé and hoping that the girl will like them. Even though it is your delivery that matters, even with questions, its good to get some sort of investment from her end.
So if you ask her what she does and she says shes a nurse, dig deeper, what made her decide to do that? How does helping people make her feel? Make her relive those emotions or let her tell you one of her own stories.
#4: Have your own inside jokes.
You can even use these for openers, you can walk up and ask a girl something that you find as an inside joke, and just because you’re enjoying it, she’ll respond well. What happens if she doesn’t respond well, then boo fucking hoo.
Who cares, your story is still bad ass. Some girls ask me what I do for a living, and I’ll tell them I’m a dolphin shaver. I’ll get really invested in the story and slowly make them believe that is truly my profession. By the end of it I’ll either burst out laughing or just keep it going and it makes the set so much more fun!
#5: Look around you
If you REALLY run out of things to say? Look around and speak of things as they happen. Look at those people, look at this table, look at this glass of water, look at that couple, I think they’re about to break up.
Use anything in your peripheral vision and start talking about it, or even start a story!
#6: Silence doesn’t matter.
Didn’t expect that did you? Yup, silence doesn’t matter at all. In Fact so much of night game is nonverbal, that many of my sets are fairly quiet with not much talking involved. If however you wish to test this out for yourself, the next time you’re talking to a girl, try going silent.
Don’t say a word, and watch how she’ll be the one to fill in the silence. If you give her room the girl will fill in the silences herself and chase the conversation to keep it going. (This doesn’t mean that you can sit back and relax, you still have to be part of the conversation, don’t be lazy)
That’s all I have for you guys in this one, check out the video and let me know what you think in the comments below.
Let me know of your funniest story that you have to tell to girls.